Who does not want to find reasons. Who wants - looking for opportunities

Wise Thoughts

(February 12, 1809, Gardin County, Kentucky - April 15, 1865, Washington, D.C.)

American statesman, 16th President of the United States (1861-1865), first President of the Republican Party, liberator of American slaves, national hero of the American people.

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Who wants - looking for opportunities. Who does not want - looking for reasons.

The hypocrite reminds me of a man who killed his parents and asks the court for mercy on the grounds that he is an orphan.

Hypocrite: A person who killed his parents... and asks for mercy on the grounds that he is an orphan. (Hypocrite: the man who murdered both his parents... pleaded for mercy on the grounds that he was an orphan.)

The best part of our life is made up of friends.

It is better to keep quiet and seem like a fool than to open your mouth and completely dispel doubts. (Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.)

The best thing in human life is friendship with other people.

The best way to get a bad law repealed is to enforce it strictly.

People who do not have flaws, as a rule, have few virtues.

The world will hardly notice and will not remember for a long time what we say here, but it will never forget what they have done here...

I don't care what people say about me behind my back as long as they tell lies about me.

I don't like this person. So, you need to get to know him better.

I don't want to end the show. We are friends, not enemies. We shouldn't be enemies. While passions may have run high, they must not break the bonds of our friendship. Unknown strings of memory, stretching from every battlefield and from every war grave to every beating heart and hearth in all our vast earth, will support the voice of the Federation with their sound when they are touched again, and it cannot be otherwise, our guardian angel souls. (Inauguration Address, March 4, 1861)

I don't care what people say about me behind my back as long as they tell lies about me.

Many are able to withstand the blows of fate, but if you really want to test a person's character, give him power.

You can fool some all the time; you can fool everyone for a while; but you can't fool everyone all the time.
Speech in Clinton 8 Sept. 1858
Johnes, p. 605
This phrase was also attributed to the American impresario Finias Barnum (1810-1891). > Jay, p. 227.
It is also quoted in the form: "You can deceive all the people for some time, you can deceive some of the people all the time, but you cannot deceive all the people all the time." >Sandburg K. Lincoln. - M., 1961, p. 112.

You can fool some of the people all the time; You can fool all the people some of the time, but you can't fool all the people all the time.

The most purposeful person is the one who really wants to go to the toilet: all obstacles seem insignificant, everything is insignificant for him, except for the goal. Agree, it’s funny to hear phrases like: “I peed because I didn’t have time to go to the toilet; because I was too tired; because I lost hope and no longer believed that I could run!”

And also "Well, of course, he ran, but his legs are so long!"; “This is clearly not for me”, “I knocked on the toilet, but they didn’t open it!”, “I didn’t have enough motivation” or “I decided to do it tomorrow ...”.
These are all phrases from the vocabulary of the Victim. Attention, the question is: are these your phrases? Do they help you achieve your goals?

A common situation in life: "I do not work, because the work itself does not want to come to me." Do you know this statement from people who justify their idleness by not wanting to look for a job?
It is more habitual to lie on sofas and make a suffering face of a victim of cruel circumstances.

People often make choices they don't want to admit to themselves, and as a psychological defense they cover them up with far-fetched, fake excuses.

"I was late because I wanted to sleep more. Well, I really wanted to sleep!" - with the subtext "I wanted to sleep so much that I had no strength to resist. It was objectively impossible."

People make up excuses for themselves - easy. It is easy to call your laziness to collect yourself and move forward an age crisis, it is easy to formulate your fear of building new relationships to yourself (and others) by the self-sufficiency of your nature, to justify intemperance by your character, and to explain your bad manners by your emotionality ...

Once invented excuses are so plausible that it is impossible to overturn them from the outside, only the person himself can admit to a lie. It happens differently when a person deceives himself for so long and successfully that it is already difficult to figure it out without outside help. Strong and responsible people in this case can act as educators. Sometimes this happens in psychological training.

At the training, the answer is clarified: "To be honest, I certainly wanted to sleep, but I myself decided that it was possible to be late. It was my choice. If I considered the matter very important, I would have got up on time and would not be late."

How to educate people so that they become the authors of their lives? The main thing is to teach people to be attentive to themselves so that they stop lying to themselves, covering up their real elections with false excuses and excuses. Further - to develop and strengthen the already emerged author's position.

If you are ready to work on yourself in order to develop your author's position, here are some recommendations: Keep your word. Keep your posture and smile. Get off the couch and look for ways out of the dead ends you created.

Dating in real life, of course, is better than online, less fantasies. Everything is visible almost immediately - whether it sticks together or not sticks together with a normal feeling of oneself and the other is clear from the first minutes.

Let's talk about dating sites. To tell the truth, for clients who have problems communicating with the opposite sex, I recommend them.

Ease is the key to success when meeting

Dating in real life, of course, is better than online, less fantasies. Everything is visible almost immediately - whether it sticks together or not sticks together with a normal feeling of oneself and the other is clear from the first minutes.

Women can also be the initiators of dating in life, but this is not in our mentality. Our young lady is used to sitting in the tower and waiting for the prince on horseback to jump to her.

Although there are simple and very feminine ways of dating ... But probably it needs to feel like a woman and be healed from injuries.

One must be able to withstand the gaze of another, be able to maintain a close distance, be able to speak first .... Oh, this opens up a wide scope for fears: from the fear of rejection to the fear of being a bad girl.

The game (and flirting and dating is a game) requires inner freedom and drive. If there are too many cockroaches in the head, the game will not turn on. And without it, it’s better not to start an acquaintance, anyway, fill up with your awkwardness and a sense of inappropriateness. Ease is the key to success when meeting.

In this sense, dating sites are a good solution for single people to avoid direct contact with another person. There is an opportunity to hide and hide in your mink by slamming the laptop lid if something goes wrong.

In addition, dating sites allow you to see how many single people of the opposite sex are. Often women complain that there are no free men (read, “I don’t see them in my environment”), dating sites open up a picture that there are many different men with varying degrees of freedom.

There is generally a choice, you just need to clearly understand who you are looking for and for what purpose. At the same time, it is advisable not to lie to yourself: if you declare that you want a serious relationship, but you yourself think that this is impossible with you or impossible on the site, then state what you believe in.

Some women are afraid of bad messages from not very adequate men. But here everything is like in life: they can say “no”, they can send, they can ... You never know what a person has on his mind.

As in life, the network has a filter: if you don't like it, don't communicate. If it is very painful from someone else's rudeness and rudeness, then this should be sorted out with a psychologist. In general, the question of the environment is a question of personal boundaries.

Dating site is an option, very a good option feel, explore how the opposite sex works. True, if you go there with your line “all men need one thing” or “all women are mercantile”, then you will find exactly those there. Selective perception!

And if you kind of want a relationship, but are sure that the dating site will not give you anything, then you do not want a relationship. Your unconscious does not allow you to do this, and refusal available ways having them is just a form of resistance, not your beliefs.

Those who want, look for opportunities, those who do not want, look for reasons.

P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness - together we change the world! © econet

In Tyura-Tam, I was delayed for an hour due to negotiations between Belyaev and Leonov with Brezhnev. Shortly before leaving for the airfield to meet the new space heroes, a group of chief designers and flight directors (Korolev, Keldysh, Tyulin, Rudenko, Pilyugin, Barmin, Kerimov and others) gathered in the "marshal's" dining room of the tenth site. Korolev proclaimed a toast to cooperation: “Friends! Before us - Moon. Let us all work together towards the great goal of the exploration of the moon. Remember how our team worked together? And then I heard V.P. Barmin, who was sitting next to me, quietly say: “We worked together when everyone was in charge ... And now there is one chief theorist and one chief designer ...” Yes. Vladimir Pavlovich is right: the former friendship between the members of the "space cooperation" has long ceased, and this is partly the fault of Korolev himself. He often makes rash decisions and is tyrannical in his relations with his assistants. Not without reason, local wits called him "Scorpion-4". The point is that when there is a threat Baikonur on the part of foreign agents, the General Staff immediately notifies the relevant services of the test site with coded signals. The code "Scorpion-1" means that in the area of ​​the landfill along railway foreigners are passing by - they can find the direction of the working radio stations and thereby determine the location and number of launch pads. Signal "Scorpio-2" means the flight of reconnaissance aircraft civil aviation, "Scorpio-3" - other, more serious actions of foreign intelligence. According to any of these signals, life in Baikonur freezes for several minutes ... Korolev learned about Scorpio-4 three days ago and at the very wrong moment. There were about two hours left before the launch of Voskhod-2, the preparation of the rocket, ship and crew went strictly according to the schedule, the situation at the start was calm. Perhaps that is why the prelaunch minutes seemed especially long to us. In order to somehow pass the time while waiting for the launch, Korolev, Barmin, Severin and I decided to discuss our plans for the future. Started business conversation passed in a relaxed manner and only occasionally interrupted by small pauses. And in one of these pauses, Severin, unexpectedly turning to Barmin with the question: “Do you know how they call Sergei Pavlovich at the training ground?” - began to talk about the "Scorpions" ... The reaction of the Queen was stormy. Blushing, he declared in a broken voice: Fascist I have never been a scorpion! "Scorpio-4" is a stupid invention of a narrow-minded person. I hope that my friends will not spread such vulgarities about me ... ” Having blurted out this tirade, Sergei Pavlovich moved away from us - an awkward silence ensued. Of course, G.I. Severin, who inadvertently offended his older friend, was most worried. Korolev treats Guy Ilyich with paternal kindness, highly appreciates his engineering talent and has high hopes for him. Needless to say, Severin joked very unsuccessfully then ...