We meet people for a reason. There is always some reason why someone comes into our life and leaves it. And the hardest thing is to realize that some people are destined to be with us only for a short time.

People who come and quickly leave our lives are usually those who open us to new opportunities and ways of growth and development.

We don't want to let these people go because we start to get used to them. But we don't realize that some people are meant to be temporary in our lives, no matter how much we wish otherwise.

“Not everything has to become something beautiful and lasting. Some people come into your life to show you what is right and wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better about yourself, or to simply be someone you can walk with at night and pour out your feelings. soul. Not everyone will stay forever, but we must keep going and be grateful to them for what they gave us.", - writer Emery Allen.

I remember my most vivid acquaintances and now I understand why each person came into my life, and how they influenced who I am today. I shared my deepest thoughts, fears, secrets and dreams with people who were no longer in my life. I don’t regret it, because at that moment it was exactly what I wanted to do.

It always seemed amazing to me that our lives intersect with the lives of so many people, and even if you only know someone for a short time, you can influence their life and their story. It's very exciting to look at it all from this point of view.

The sooner we realize that not everyone is meant to be a part of our lives, the easier it will be for us to plunge into new relationships and value time with a certain person, allowing them to leave when the time is right. We must make the most of the time we have with each other and focus on the present. Let go of expectations, assumptions and satiate yourself with as much communication with people as possible.

“I see a lot of people in unstimulating relationships - not just between guys and girls. Many people find themselves in stagnant friendships. If people were less afraid of ending something, they would get more out of life...You meet the right person V right time, and it fills something in your life. You fill something into it. But there is a limit to this,” singer Laura Marling.

If you lose someone from your life, don't lose yourself.

Always remember that just because some people are temporary in your life, it doesn't make the memories and experiences you have with them any less important.

Not everyone you lose is a loss. And not everyone you find is worth keeping.

He was supposed to be the One. To those who will get down on one knee, who will scream with joy when they see those two pink stripes, who will help me blow out the candles on my 80th birthday.

He was supposed to be the One before I lost him.

At first it hurt. It hurts VERY much. I've had too many sleepless nights, lying in the middle of my bed with a crumpled sheet and a pillow soaked from tears. I felt that this would never stop, I doubted that I had left him in vain, I reproached myself for not trying hard.

But then, one day I realized that I would be okay. And not just fine, but better than I was before. I'll be free. I will finally live the life I want.

All because one day I realized that not everyone you lose is a loss. And not everyone you find is worth keeping.

People come into our lives for a reason, for a purpose. They give us lessons, bring us happiness or sadness, open our eyes to something, help us recognize ourselves and what we want.

Sometimes people leave our lives for some reason and for some purpose. They leave because they have already completed their mission in our lives, because they have already taught us what they had to, and now it is time for us to move on. Those people who come and go and should not stay.

When they leave it hurts. You feel empty, as if they left you without an umbrella in the pouring rain, as if they had slammed a door in your face. You feel like they have taken your heart with them, you feel betrayed, hopeless and destroyed.

These feelings are normal at first. But after a few weeks or months, it's time for you to take a step back. You must realize that by losing such people who offended you, who were careless with your heart, you only won. You have won your freedom, joy, peace and quiet in your soul.

So stop acting like you are losing something valuable, stop giving him/her so much power. Pull yourself together, put the pieces of your heart together and tell yourself every day that this is not a loss, but a victory.

Yes, you could lose a lot with their departure. You may have lost memories, shared dreams of the future, morning hugs. You might have lost cute good night texts, relationship status on Facebook, peace of mind knowing that you are not alone.

I lost all that too when I lost him. I understand what it's like when you lie alone at night and you're so lonely that it's hard to breathe. Losing always hurts, I know that.

But here's the thing. I lost something else too.

I lost my text message and phone calls, which he ignored, the cold-blooded manipulation, the feeling that I was missing something. I lost painful reproaches, accusations that it was always my fault, his disregardful attitude when I cried.

I lost someone who was emotionally abusive to me.

And although it is hard, it is not a loss. He came into my life and taught me a lesson. And for that I am grateful. I'm grateful for the short time we were happy and that he showed me how strong I could be.

But losing him is good. It's even better than good. Because, having lost him, I found myself. I found my dreams again.

If you have the same feelings, if you have finally let go of something so useless and destructive to you, and you blame yourself for something, don’t. They are no longer worth your energy and your tears. They are no longer worth anything to you.

You may have lost them, but you have gained so much more. You won, you got your life back.

Not every fatigue and overload should lead to stress or professional burnout. However, in every burnout there are elements of fatigue, overload and more.

Over the past few centuries, people’s sense of guilt has increased significantly and it’s time to reconsider their views on this. Otherwise, it could end disastrously, both in an individual case and for humanity as a whole.

Almost everything that happens to us is our own fault. Yes, yes, dear reader, that’s right! Now many will object to me that they say - what about fate, predestination, etc. things? Well, I’ll say more - I’m a believer and I believe in fate. But what is fate? And is it possible to change fate with your own hands?

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Why is it sometimes better to say no?

Many have watched the movie “Always Say Yes”, almost everyone has heard the saying: “it’s better to do and regret than not to do and regret,” but there are things in life that you need to categorically refuse, and we will talk about them in this article.

From time to time, all creative people are familiar with the feeling of inner devastation and mental burnout. These days your mood becomes bad, new ideas don’t come to mind, you don’t want to create and you can’t do it. This condition can occur after a long period of creative work or due to life shocks and stresses not directly related to creativity. Of course, you can give your body a rest, get some sleep, eat delicious food, go on vacation and, as a result, regain your strength. But how can you subsequently regain inspiration and find yourself back in the realm of ideas?

Negative emotions can arise in anyone. Everyone has problems, stressful situations, difficult days... All this pumps a ton of vital energy out of a person, makes him lethargic and tired, doomed and sick. Because of negativity, quarrels with loved ones, rude communication with others, curses between people and hatred of the whole world arise.

How to attract love into your life, what should you do for this and is it necessary? Firstly, there are no universal recipes, tips or manuals to follow. Secondly, if in this case the word “work” is in principle appropriate, then the work should start with yourself, the changes should be primarily internal.

/ Prologue /

People come and go from our lives. Unfortunately, no one can avoid losses and disappointment; everyone, sooner or later, goes through pain, tears, parting and betrayal. Experience, understanding of life and knowledge of the essence of people are built on such a bitter foundation. We are all different, each is unique, there is something special inside each of them. Everyone lives life and builds it in their own way. Principles change, views on things take on different forms, we grow up and, accordingly, our environment changes.

THERE IS NO WORSE PAIN THAN SEEING HIM WITH ANOTHER

As usual, I woke up to the sound of the alarm clock at exactly 06:30, quickly went to the bathroom, then to the kitchen, and then ran to the university. This has been the case every school day for three years.

“Good morning,” Albina hugged me, then ran to the bathroom. My beloved Adyghe, close friend and classmate, was a sweet, sociable and very charming girl. My friend’s number of fans at the university grew more and more every day. The fact that Albina and her older brother studied with Albina at our university saved her from the annoying advances and excessive attention of suitors.

We quickly got ready and went to the university. An ordinary day, ordinary couples, harmful teachers and headphones in the ears of boring couples. Albina made a funny face and squealed:

Kira, my stomach won’t forgive you if you don’t come with me to the canteen now,” pulling me by the hand, she ran up the stairs. I ran after my friend, laughing. In the canteen, where gluttons like Albina and I and truant hated couples gathered in heaps, it was noisy as always. We were chatting merrily, laughing and drinking our favorite cocktail, when suddenly my gaze fell on the front door and my heart stabbed painfully.

I turned away and closed my eyes, as if this were some kind of obsession. But alas, what he saw was reality. Vadim, with yet another of his girlfriends, walked casually across the hall in the direction of an empty table by the window, hugging the blue-eyed blonde around the waist. They walked in, sat down at a table, and after a couple of minutes Vadim got up and went to the counter to place an order. As he passed by, he looked in our direction, said hello and walked on. Hurt? No, it's even worse. To love a person, not be with him and still naively expect that everything will work out and he will return... It’s stupid. It’s stupid, but that’s exactly how it was, I waited. Although outwardly she tried to hold on and now she was only thinking about not crying in front of everyone. His next relationship, girls, gifts from all sorts of fans and no promises. No one. Including me. Albina, Aika and my other girls tried diligently to reason with me, asked me to forget him, all in vain.

Aika often warned me that this is exactly how everything would end, that there was no consistency and reliability in him, that this relationship would only be a disadvantage for me. But first love, you can’t easily forget it, don’t forbid yourself, don’t stop feeling, don’t stop being jealous. I love. My heart lives in a different rhythm with my mind. My mood was ruined, my appetite was lost, I wanted to go home, under the covers and cry.

We came home, Albina did not ask unnecessary questions, understanding everything perfectly, but she said that she would not leave me at home alone and I would go to the hall with her.

Kira, don’t look at me with the eyes of the cat from Shrek, get ready. Let’s go to the gym. Fast!

Staying at home meant crying until I was powerless. I decided to listen to my friend and we spent until nine in the evening at the gym. Arriving home, exhausted, I was unable to think about anything, quickly took a shower and went to bed.

Studying proceeded as usual, we went to the gym, walked around winter Krasnodar, celebrated holidays - but all this did not bring me proper joy. I coped with depression with great effort, tried not to meet Vadim at the university, did not discuss him with my friends, tried to drown out the mental pain with physical fatigue, spending endless days in gym. Although, in principle, I had an excellent figure and did not need such halls. But I had to keep myself occupied with something, otherwise I was slowly starting to go crazy. What prevented me from forgetting? Why did I suffer? Understatement is what tears the brain into many fragments of guesses and hopes. I felt that there were a lot of questions, but I knew that I would most likely never get answers to them. We never fully figured out the relationship; there was no face-to-face conversation with questions and answers. He couldn't even break up like a human being.

AND HOW WELL IT ALL STARTED

I finally found out the name of that handsome guy who rides around in our area by car. Oh, I think I'm in love. My hero's name is Vadim. Mmm... Memories of his appearance make me smile. I really want to meet him. But how? It turns out that he studies at the sixth school, it is not far from the school where I study, but we just can’t get to know each other.

Yesterday I saw Shoma, it turns out I know Vadim, they are good friends. And also... He also gave me his number and promised to try to introduce us. My hands are reaching out to write to him, I don’t have enough patience to wait for Shoma to introduce us personally. No, I can’t stand it anymore, trying is not torture.

Time passed, we began to communicate exclusively by messages, I rarely saw him around the city, but it seemed to me that he never understood that Kira and I had been since the seventh school. Oddly enough, there are a lot of girls with that name in our school. Well, never mind, let's see what happens next.

Today I found out that Vadim is dating some Sveta. It didn't disappoint me one bit. I would not like to not answer messages and not get to know me. This means that he doesn’t really need this Sveta. Moreover, now we know each other personally. When I was walking home from the tutor I met Shoma and Vadim, they were walking in the park. Now he knows me by sight.

Now we correspond and communicate even more often. Apparently rumors are spreading quickly in our small town. Someone took care and gave my number to Vadim’s girlfriend. She called and asked me not to bother him and not to write to him anymore. How insecure she turns out to be, since she started calling me with such requests. Well, I told her straight out that, firstly, this does not concern her, and secondly, he himself takes the initiative and writes to me, so let him fuck off. I hope she won't bother me. I won’t even think about stopping communicating with Vadim. No!

A month has already passed, Vadim has disappeared completely. But someone else is trying to court me. Such a cute boy, a year older than me, he is 18 years old, his name is Rasul. If Vadim doesn’t show up, I’ll agree to take a walk in the park with Rasul.

HELLO DEPRESSION, BE AT HOME

This morning I woke up before my alarm clock and had a nightmare. I generally don’t sleep well, since being busy doesn’t change my state of mind, I need to start taking sedatives. Sometimes I see Vadim at the university, he communicates with this blonde. She is of course very beautiful, I won’t say that she is an arrogant sheep, but it hurts to see them together. Very. Albina and Aika, as always, insist that I’m torturing myself in vain, it’s time to pay attention to other guys. Yes, they are certainly right, because I am a free girl. It would be better not to know such freedom when you love. There seem to be nice guys in the gym, we communicate nicely, but it doesn’t go beyond simple communication. Aika says that I’m probably just not ready, even in my thoughts, to be with someone other than Vadim, so I’m mentally pushing away all possible relationships with guys. And thoughts, as we know, materialize. I guess I really need time. Time to let go.

My happiness didn’t last long; we’ve known each other for so many years and you can count on your fingers the months when he was around. I remember the last months together with an involuntary smile. We were traveling on a bus to our hometown, Dagestan, and were sitting next to each other. He held my hand all the way, I slept a little on the road, and when I woke up I discovered that he still hadn’t let go of my hand. Then he said that he tried once again not to move so as not to wake me up. From such memories, the heart begins to dance to the rhythm of tango, the blood seems to begin to flow along special routes of the body, causing goosebumps. There were times when he would come over every day and we would sit for hours and talk about everything. So many emotions, moments and happiness remained in me. I have no idea how anyone can forget all this. Until this winter, everything was fine, we finally started dating normally, I thought that Vadim had finally come to his senses, made up his mind and we would always be together.